New Position at Work!

As part of my project of “Dedicating One Year to Life” I want to spend more time with my children and lower my stress level.  I have been working as a night shift nurse for a local hospital for almost a year and a half.  I accepted a new position on the same unit as a day shift nurse.  It is a different work flow and was a significant pay cut but I needed this.  Actually, my whole family needed this.  I was working 12 hour shifts and I am now working 8 hour shifts.  I now work 4 days a week instead of 3 also.  We are trying to pay off all of our debt so the pay cut and addition of daycare stinks but the stress of working night shift with three kids was hard on all of us.  I am now home to make dinner, help with homework, and do the nightly/bedtime routine daily.

While I am very excited for the change, I grossly underestimated what switching shifts would do to Octavia (7 months old) and my body.  I am currently sick and so is the baby.  She started daycare this week which was hard emotionally.  The complete flip of schedule took both of us by storm.  I am not surprised that we ended up sick with all of this going on.  Hopefully it doesn’t last long.

My husband and I started setting priorities for paying off our debt.  We have decided that my car payment is a logical first choice because the payment is almost $300 a month and it is close to being paid off.  We will be using that extra money to pay off our credit cards next.  We are simply paying them off in the order for least to most owed.  Paying off all of our debts is a big step toward the life that we want.  We have a desire for less stress, more simplicity in our day-to-day lives, and the ability to travel more.  Our long-term goal is to do a RTW and move somewhere warmer near the beach.

We only did a little work on our home this week because we were so busy.  I bought new pajamas and socks for the baby because she was outgrowing hers.  I got rid of the ones she had outgrown and also boxed up some of her clothing that she grew out of.  Instead of replacing all of these items we decided to minimize the amount of clothing she has.  I was surprised that she had so much when I took the time to think about it instead of just buying things because baby clothes are super cute and tiny.  She only needs enough to get her through  a week.  Any less than that is a hindrance because I would have to do laundry more often.  She uses special soap so I cannot throw her stuff in with everything else.

Our goal for this coming week is to use the food we currently have in our kitchen instead of shopping or going out to eat.  This will help us to use up some of the almost forgotten items we found when cleaning out our kitchen in week one.  We can also use the money we typically would on groceries to further pay off our debt.  Our grocery budget is normally $150 a week.  My goal is to spend less than $50 this week on basics like bread, milk, eggs, and we have to buy dog food.

I will update you on our journey again soon

5 Things To Purge From Your Kitchen

It is amazing to see the amount of stuff that accumulates in the kitchen.  The kitchen really is the center of many homes.  The kitchen was a huge undertaking during my personal journey toward simplifying my home.  If you are on a similar journey or just want to take a few small steps towards less clutter, these 5 things are a good place to start.

  1. Tame the Tupperware Beast – We have all heard it a million times but it’s time to finally do something about it.  The loads of mismatched lids and containers need your attention.  This surprisingly did not take as long as I thought it would.  Start by removing your favorite ones.  The ones you use weekly that are in good shape with fitting lids can go immediately to the keep pile.  Next start matching up lids and containers.  Throw away anything without a match.  Now trash anything that is discolored, cracked, or has an ill-fitting lid.  The last step is the hardest, decide how many you actually need out of the containers left.  This number varies based on the family.  Consider how often you eat leftovers, what sizes work best for your family, and what logically fits in the space provided.  Do you only use them once or twice a year?  Could you use a freezer bag for those times instead?  If you had to buy new ones tomorrow, would you purchase these items again?  Wash the ones that you have decided to keep and organize into a larger container that fits in your cabinet.  This keeps them from going everywhere inside your cabinets.
  2. Some of These Things are not like the Others – It is amazing how much stuff ends up in crazy places.  This happens even more often when you have children.  This can be time-consuming to handle but the extra work space in your kitchen is worth it.  The weirdest thing we found was a decorative ink pen from Disney World inside a punch bowl.  We relocated the ink pen to the desk and got rid of the punch bowl.  We obviously hadn’t been using it, lol.
  3. Food, Food, and more Food – Take a day to pull everything from your pantry, cabinets, or anywhere else you keep non-refrigerated food.  Check expiration dates and throw out everything expired to start.  Go through everything else with honesty.  Have anything in there that you will not eat?  We got rid of a bag of candy our girls were never going to eat.  They still had tons of Halloween candy hanging around in the pantry.  To make getting rid of those things easier either give them to somebody who you know will eat them or donate them.  Next go through your refrigerator and freezer doing the same thing.  Now make a meal plan including all of your food.  Depending on the amount of stuff that was harboring in your kitchen you may save a ton of money on groceries in the next couple weeks.
  4. Weird appliances – We all have them.  I received the majority of mine as gifts but my husband is also responsible for bringing some of the odd items in.  I made sure that my whole family was gathered around the table as we went through things.  I set the small appliances on the table one by one asking if anybody truly used this product.  The answers were shocking to all of us.  There were some things that we all thought somebody else wanted and they didn’t use it at all.
  5. Bags – Do you have a huge pile of bags in your kitchen…maybe under your kitchen sink?  Only keep the amount of grocery bags that you will actually use and recycle the rest.  Do you use reusable grocery bags?  Shouldn’t they be in your car instead of your kitchen?

When you are done, take the time to organize what is left.  There are many options available to keep the things that you use orderly.

First Week of 2017

During the first week of 2017 we started working toward our goal for a happier and more relaxed home.  We went through our kitchen.  We moved some things to new places that make more sense with the way we use the item or the space it is in.  We also got rid of a lot of things.  I was surprised to find that we had such an odd assortment of items crammed into those cabinets.  The kitchen is tidy and much easier to use.  Since making more dinners at home was part of our goals for a simpler and more functional family life.

I also finished my last night shift.  We set up daycare for our youngest so I can start my new day shift job.  I set up a daily family schedule to help us to keep the basics done.  All of this is going to be a major change.  We will evaluate each change and the impact that it is making on our family as a whole after each change.  Some changes will take more time to assess the impact of than others.

I also have decided that I want to make more time for things that I enjoy.  I would like to start writing more often.  My long-term goal would be to write daily but I do not think I am in a good position to achieve that goal.  I am going to set a realistic goal to write three times a week.  I also want to spend more time taking photographs and reading.

We have also started to get together a list of our debts and started working on a budget.  Paying off all of our debts is something that my husband and I both agree would make a huge difference in our lives.  We have our mortgage, two care loans, credit cards, student loans, and doctor/hospital bills.  We are still in the very early stages of this.  I will update all of you on this as time goes on.

Family Meeting -2017 Project

We had our family meeting to discuss my idea of dedicating one year to life.  It was awkward to explain but my family was interested.  We discussed the things that we would like to see change and the things we wish to do more of.  We set up a schedule to make family life a little easier and to keep the house clean.  We discussed all the ways we can streamline the musts so we can spend more time on the wants. We want to spend as much time with our girls as possible before they grow up.  Healthy eating remains a goal going into 2017.  Isabella (7), has a goal to try new foods, especially more fruits and vegetables.  I was shocked that she came up with this.  Ivy (15), is focusing on school and wants to spend more time volunteering or interning to gain experience.  This will help her to decide what career she may want.  We all agreed that we want to spend more time together and with the extended family/friends.  We also all agree that I need a day shift job even though this means daycare and a pay cut.  I am terrified to send Octavia to daycare but night shift is killing me and is not good for my family as a whole.

We also talked about our big dreams and personal goals to see how things fit together.  We have taken many trips together over the years so it was no surprise that we all agreed that we would like to continue to travel as much as possible.  I decided that this was a great time to share my dream of long-term travel and a RTW trip with my family.  It is something I’ve touched on in passing but never truly opened up to family discussion.  It went over better than I expected.  Our oldest requires more stability than travel can give her during this time of her life.  We discussed the possibility of long term travel after she graduates in a few years.

During the meeting we touched on the fact that we want to work on our budget and paying off debt/saving more.  My husband and I spent time going over this in more detail after the meeting.  We have decided that paying off all of our debts is the key to the life that we want going forward.  My husband wants to live on the beach or at least within an easy drive.  We want to do a RTW.  We also both have jobs that are easy to move within the United States.  The older I get the more I want to take adventures.  I am sick of spending my time worrying about things that do not really matter and avoiding the things I want to do out of fear.  I fear that I am going to wake up one day, my kids will be grown, my health failing, and I will realize that I never “had time or money” to live the life I wanted to.  This fear is bigger than the others.  I talk to people everyday that are shocked to find that they have gotten to the end of their life and didn’t live any of the crazy dreams that they thought they would have time for later.

My husband and I have started breaking down how we can make our dreams a reality.  A schedule to make the everyday necessities easier was step one.  This gives us more free time and makes it obvious that we truly have this free time to spend.  Scheduling in family time including game night, movie night, and trips was a must as well.  Eating better and exercising is important for the whole family.  Being in good shape will make travel easier as well and seemed like an important step toward a RTW.  Getting our finances in order is imperative.  Having the debt monkey on our backs is not working for either of us.  We are working on getting exact numbers and plans together.  I will share more as we go forward.  2017 is shaping up to be quite a year!

Dedicating One Year to Life – 2017

What if I dedicated one year of my life to living my life? Sound silly? Let me explain.

I am a wife, mother of three, and a night shift nurse. My work and home life can both be very demanding.  I find myself becoming more overwhelmed in my daily life.  I discovered the concepts of minimalism, purposeful living, and mindfulness about a year ago while pregnant with my third daughter.  She is currently 6 months old and I have never felt more like time is just flying by.  There was not just one moment that suddenly made everything make sense.  There were many moments over the last few years that have continued to add up and have made it glaringly obvious that something in my life is going off track.

I am thinking about what I really want in life.  Not what I am “supposed” to want but what I actually want.  The whispers of my heart I hear when the house is quiet for a moment.  All of this led me to reevaluate our daily lives.  What does my family need?  What do I need?  How do I want my children to grow up?  What memories do I want them to look back on?  What if I spend my time instead of just “passing time” on watching TV and browsing through other people’s very edited social media feeds?  I use that time that I have been wasting to do all the things that I claim to not have time for.  What if I scheduled my time and planned the use of resources at home as effectively as I do at work?  What if I use my time to do all the things I have always wanted to do?  I could spend more quality time with my kids. I could check some things off my bucket-list. I have actually written one of those. You know, the end all, be all list of things I want to see, do, try, and eat before I take the old dirt nap. Nowhere on that list does it say watch reruns, spend hours staring at my phone each day, or give “The Joneses” a second thought. What if I lived on purpose?  How would it change me? How would it change my relationships? My family? My health? My job? My home? My finances?  What would happen if I spent one year truly living my life?

I have decided to spend 2017 living.  If you would like to follow along, I will be covering my journey here.